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Patience Is Required

Posted: Oct 3, 2015 at 12:00 am   /   by   /   comments (0)

The strain of waiting comes to us all, single or married. A dear friend (I’d like to call Sonia) once narrated to me how she desired to get married and prayed for years to finally arrive at the man she’s now married to. All the glamour and glitz they could afford accompanied the wedding, reception and honeymoon. She had finally landed her own private Prince Charming and she hoped to be a ‘happy ever after princess’. She shared her story with everyone who cared to listen, especially those who desired to get married, shortly after she did; she’d tell them how she had prayed and fasted and sown seeds and held on to God’s word unwaveringly and they would be truly inspired. Little did she know that there was yet another long wait ahead. It was the wait for a child. After her marriage, she was to come into yet another struggle. She just wasn’t getting pregnant though the doctors said everything was alright with the both of them. Now again, she’d been praying…for years. Then I asked her “which of the waiting time was more trying to your faith?” I was going to find, from her answer, something that’s innate with us as humans. She told me that waiting for a child is far more challenging. Of course that comes really close home with all the parental, societal and even religious pressure especially stemming from what part of the world we come from and live in. 

It might surprise you to know, however, that neither of them is easier than the other. Man’s needs are insatiable. He gets this and then desires the next and in this case, Sonia only thinks that waiting for a child is more difficult because she’s gone past waiting for a husband. It’s the way life is. Until we draw our last or the Lord returns, we will be desiring something, then the next, then the next. To not desire anything at all is to be dead, only not yet buried. But there’s a place of patience. Patience is required.
James 1:4 says ‘But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing’.
Waiting is one message a lot of people don’t like to hear. They’ll prefer a message of faith that says God’s gonna do it now. Truth is, God’s not ‘gonna’ do it. He’s already done it. (2 Corinthians 1:20). But there’s a place of waiting ON and IN God.

A lot of times, it’s easier when God says ‘yes’ or ‘no’. At least we know what next steps to take but when God says ‘wait’, the big question is ‘how long Lord’ and many times, you’d agree with me that He doesn’t tell.
What kind of person do you become when ‘it’ doesn’t happen at the time you expect? What are your reactions, contemplations and considerations when it looks like God’s not coming through for you like you want Him to?
Patience is a virtue you need when you find yourself waiting on God ‘endlessly’; it’s an ability. The ability to suppress restlessness when confronted with delay. It’s from the Greek Hupomone which is ‘the characteristic of a person to remain unswerved from his/her loyalty to faith and piety by even the greatest trials and sufferings.

There’s a recipe recommended when satan tries to mock at you while you’re waiting, throwing darts of temptation and discouragement at you and you feel like giving in: Eyeball the devil and say to him “Whatever you try it won’t work devil cos I don’t mind waiting”.

Here’s the trophy you emerge with after patience has carried out its complete surgery on you. You will be mature and complete and you won’t need anything.

If you will live a single or married and fulfilled life, you will have to practice patience, master it until you begin to enjoy that extraordinary peace that a person has irrespective of the happenings and circumstances that surround them.