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I Never Pressured Myself To Get Married –Damilola Adegbite

Posted: Jul 18, 2015 at 2:50 am   /   by   /   comments (0)

Former Tinsel co-stars, Nigerian sweetheart Damilola Adegbite and her Ghanaian heartthrob Chris Attoh, sprang-up the surprise look on the face of their fans and colleagues when they got married in an intimate ceremony in Accra, Ghana on Valentine’s Day, February 14, 2015. The couple, who were an item for years had earlier gotten engaged in a spectacular way in New York City, while Dami was pregnant with their now- seven months old son; Brain Attoh.  In this interview with Sam Anokam, the ever happy thespian talks about her marriage and career.

How did you get into acting?

It’s always been a passion for me. Some people, along the course of life, decide to choose certain careers based on wherever life leads them. I am pretty focused and I know what I want and I always try to stick to that. I have always wanted to be in the arts. Even while growing up, everyone around me saw that that was what I wanted to do. I was always in some music or theatre-related issue. I was always doing something that had to do with the arts.

Let’s talk about your wedding, at a point, were you pressurized into marriage?

Thankfully No! I didn’t come from a background that would do such. I never pressured myself to get married. In fact, if I had my way, I would have been single till now, but ‘Oga’ captured me and won’t let go.

Why the choice of a surprise secret wedding?

Well, we had wanted something very small and intimate. Plus the fact that we are based in Ghana, there’s no way we would have invited everyone from Nigeria. But not to worry, we are planning a bigger one here in Nigeria. When that time comes, we would call out everybody to come celebrate with us.

Damilola Adegbite

Damilola Adegbite

Surprisingly, you don’t look like a new mama. You have got your sexiness back. What’s the secret?

There’s no secret to it, just that you have to eat right and hit the gym. I’m not there yet, I still have lots more to do. I want my body back the same way it used to be.

What does motherhood mean to you?

It’s such an amazing feeling. I feel so awesome carrying my baby in my arms. The stage of having to carry another full human being was kind of scary though. At a point I was like, I am not doing this again. But when I finally had him, carried him in my arms, he looked so adorable.

Right now, I have forgotten all the pains and want three more.

That period I was kind of over eating with the excuse of eating for two, but I was kind of moderate.

Your baby, your marriage; are you afraid they might slow you down in the industry?

Well, no! Omotola Jolade has been my role model in that aspect. As long as she can do it, I can too.  She’s a mother of four and still doing very well for herself, so why wouldn’t I? She managed to maintain her family life and career perfectly well, so I believe I can do that too.

Talking about inter country marriage, how were you received into the Ghanaian family?

To me, Ghanaians are very warm and receptive. I am not really a stranger in Ghana, because I have been visiting Ghana for quite a while. I don’t have any problems with being married into a Ghanaian family. It has been awesome so far. I am enjoying every bit of it.

Your choice of a Ghanaian Husband; does it mean no Nigerian guy made an effort before Chris Attoh?

Of course, they did. But unfortunately, Chris stole my heart and the rest is history.

Should we say that you would have still be rocking the single’s life if not for the pregnancy?

Well, we had always wanted to live together as man and wife. But the baby hastened it all up. Chris wanted me to be his wife.  He really wanted it and here we are as one, he wouldn’t have wanted anything else.

Where was he and his reactions during your labour period?

Oh! You have no idea. He was there, very supportive. He was filming the whole process. He was very wonderful throughout that period. I’d do it over and over again.

Chris Attoh is a ladies man, how do you cope with female around him?

How do you mean by he is a ladies man? Because he is so handsome? Well, definitely, every lady wants him but he is a disciplined man. I have never ever met a man like him before.

Sooner or later, you would bounce back to filming, how then would you create time for your husband, baby and home?

Like I had said earlier, if Omotola could do it, I can too. It is not just her; there are many other people in the industry that have been married for a very long time and still relevant. It is not such a heavy task. It can be done.

You seem to be a happy girl, what inspires Damilola and keeps her going?

Yea, you’re right! I like to be happy. I like joy, happiness. I like to be comfortable.  I don’t like to worry. I don’t like to be scared. I always want to be in control of whatever I am doing. And I want to feel good in whatever I am doing. Happiness inspires me a lot.

When you took in outside wedlock, what was the immediate reaction of your parents?

They never reacted negatively. They knew Chris already, so they didn’t really frown at my pregnancy. Thankfully, my family is from this generation, so they understood the situation very well. My mother was like, ‘I’ll rather have a baby outside wedlock, than have an abortion’.  We don’t have any right to kill any baby, if you are pregnant, you better have the baby. All babies are sent to this world for different reasons.

What the plans for the Nigeria’s version of your wedding?

Well, for now, we don’t really have any plan yet. What we did in Ghana was just the registry, then a little party to entertain our few friends that came round.  We are still going to do the traditional wedding, sometime and the white wedding.

No fixed date yet?

No! No fixed date. We are still working on it.

As a husband, now a father, what kind of person is Chris Attoh?

He is a perfect gentleman. I mean in every bit of it. I repeat, in my life time I haven’t seen or met a man like him before.  He is so selfless.

What should your fans expect from you as you return?

I have been away for a while, now I’m so eager to work. Imagine sitting down at home for months to have a baby and nurse the baby, I am so bored out of my mind.  But now I am back again. I’m already mingling with my friends because it has been a while since I saw most of them. More movies, more entertainment, more good stuffs from me to my fans out there.

It didn’t take you long before you became a household name, which of the movies gave you that push to the top?

Tinsel was the big break for me. It was a huge platform. That was where I got my recognition from. I was there for seven years. That was also where my fan base kicked off from.

At a point you left, did you regret taking that step at that time?

Yea! Sometimes I miss it. It was a very nice family. I miss the fun and all that but there comes a time in one’s life where he or she just have to move on.

What made you take that step at that time?

It was very daring, but I needed to move on. I wanted to experience more of the industry. I wanted to do films and other stuffs. I needed some other experience and see how much further I could go. I was loyal to them for many years, it was only normal for me to move on.

You are always well put together on the red carpet. Do you have a special designer for your clothes?

Well, I try to patronize as many people as I can in the fashion industry. Especially, if your item or your piece flatters me or something I could rock. I basically source for most of the clothes you see.  They could be something I pick off a designer’s rack or something I put together myself.

To you, what’s the sexiest part of your body?

I like my eyes, I think they are so lovely. They are big but sexy too.

Would you think of enhancing your boobs or butts some day?

I don’t really believe in implants, because one can get addicted to them. You can get one part enhanced, then you also want to get another part to complement the first one. You’ll never be satisfied.

What would be your greatest fantasy?

Regardless of what it is, where I am, what I achieved, whenever, wherever, I want to be able to wake up in the morning, look at myself in the mirror and say: “You are not doing badly Damilola”. So, basically, I would want to, at all times, be happy with where I am.

Tell us a bit about your background?

Well, Damilola Adegbite was born into a family of four. I was born and raised in Lagos. In Surulere, to be precise, so I grew up in Surulere. I have a degree in Business Administration from Bowen University.