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Kolo: A Rare Widow At 60

Posted: Jun 19, 2015 at 1:31 am   /   by   /   comments (0)

By Chinwendu Nnadozie


 The story Mrs. Mary M. Kolo, a widow as told by some of her numerous ‘children’ who had spent all their academic sojourn as students of the Federal University of Technology (FUT), Minna is that of a child who found comfort in the arms of a caring mother different from their biological mothers.

Inna zakama zhi, ( Peoples’ mother’) as Mrs. Mary Kolo who turned 60 recently is fondly called has remained a force to reckon with particularly in the minds of those who knew her well, many of whose life she had touched in many ways including colleagues at the Niger State College of Education, Minna, the church where she fellowships or other social gatherings where she belongs to for her motherly role to people she meant so much to in the past sixty years of her existence.

Mrs. Kolo (centre) flanked by her four children and friends
Mrs. Kolo (centre) flanked by her four children and friends

Mary Kolo lost her husband, late Steven Sunday Kolo from Katamba Bologi village in Edati local government council whom she got married to in the year 1983 and was the then librarian with the Federal University of Technology (FUT), Minna. Mary did not allow the stigma of widowhood weigh her down but carried on with life challenges to fulfill her late husbands’ dreams and aspirations; giving their four children, two boys and two girls; Patience, Silas, N’na and Paul the best education the family can afford. For 15 years, Mary tarried facing both family and societal challenges associated with widowhood to see their children through secondary school and today they are all graduates in different disciplines.

Due to the love and affection she shared with her loving husband, Mary Kolo who had served and retired haven put in the mandatory 35 years in service against pressure from within and outside her family circle resisted several overtures re-marrying and remained committed towards accomplishing the dreams and aspirations of her husband before his death.

Notwithstanding being a widow, Kolo walking through all the challenges of life single-handedly to train her four children who are all graduates in their different fields still finds time to embark on charity work including; visiting the less privileged and catering for the many adopted children and others who seek for her help for a shelter.

For Mrs. Sarah Nmadu, life would have been incomplete without the motherly love and care she enjoyed living with Inna zakama zhi who she said did not only teach her what she held unto that made her a successful mother of her children and a house wife but supported her throughout her academic sojourn besides other forms of assistance she enjoyed being groomed by Mrs. Kolo.

In a sermon to mark the 60th Birthday thanksgiving service which took place at the Chapel of Grace, Federal University of Technology (FUT), Minna, the Chaplain, Pastor Michael Onimole expressed appreciation to God for being a helper in times of need for Mrs. Kolo, particularly in surmounting peculiar challenges from within and outside family circle the past fifteen years as a widow.

Pastor Onimole extolled the virtues of Mrs. Kolo whom he said is not only a committed member of the church thanked God for granting the celebrant three score years and still flourishing with strength and wisdom serving God and humanity and admonished other women to strive to be role models for younger mothers to emulate.

The celebrant, Mary Kolo in an interview said she will remain grateful to God for granting her good health to take care of her children and the entire nucleus and extended family members even as she promised to continue to serve God and humanity as long as there is breath of life in her. For God who has been faithful to her since 1983 when she got married to late Steven Kolo, since the past 15 years when she lost her husband and again seeing her through in bringing up her children in the fear of God, Mrs. Kolo said she will remain ever grateful to her creator for the gift of life.

Inna zakama zhi said; “I feel Gods’ grace, mercy and love seeing many people around me to rejoice with me today. I can feel the fulfillment of Gods’ promise in my life and I will ever remain grateful to him and re-dedicate my life to serving him for the remaining days of my life”.

Among the dignitaries that were present to rejoice with at  her birthday commemorative church service and at the reception/party that followed shortly after at her residence in Minna includes; Prof. (Mrs.) Irene Muogbo and Prof. Jimoh David of the Federal University of Technology, Minna. Others are; Pastor Yerima Samaila Samande of Faith Foundation church, Minna, Pastor James Gana of New Creation Ministry, Minna and as well as women groups from Chapel of Grace, FUT, Minna women groups from faith based societies within and outside Minna, relations, friends and well wishers from within and outside Niger State.