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I Want To Marry A Mature Man – Belinda Effah

Posted: Oct 5, 2015 at 12:02 am   /   by   /   comments (0)

She is no doubt a sought-after actress in Nollywood and darling of top producers and directors. In this chat with Chinyere Abaziem, the pretty Calabar, Cross-River State-born Belinda Effah talks about her career, among other issues. Excerpts:

Belinda Effah

Belinda Effah

What was your growing up days like?

I grew up in a very lovely environment.  I grew up in a military environment. My mother has always been into business, while my father was very strict. We couldn’t do anyhow but we learnt to be much disciplined in the process.

What prompted your return after you left the industry at a point?

I’m a very determined person. The end determines the means. Everybody has a strategy. I started acting in 2005 then along the line, I got into a TV reality show; ‘Next Movie Star.’ I felt that platform would project me to wherever I want to go in the entertainment industry, but things didn’t turn out as I had planned.

I had to put in a lot of patience, hard work and determination, but sometimes the burden of life would hit you so hard that you would be forced to sit down and reflect.

I never gave up, I just had to strategize and continue. In 2008/09, I took the back seat, because a lot wasn’t happening and I had bills to pay. I got a day’s job but was always in tune with what was going on in the entertainment industry.

Then in 2011, the industry called me back. 

How many awards do you have now?

So far, I have 7 awards to my credit. I won AMAA, BON, GIAMA, AMVCA, and lots more.

What inspires you?

I would say it has been God. I’m a very spiritual person. And I believe it was my calling to be an actress. He guides me and orders my steps on how and where I should be.

Then I also draw inspiration from the people around me, my environment, the things I see and lots more.

Can you remember when you had your first kiss?

I can’t remember, because I don’t think it was significant.

You are public figure, so your fans would want to know a little bit about you, are you engaged?

I’m not engaged. Let’s leave it at that.

How far would you go to protect your relationship?

I’ll only be in a relationship with a matured mind, who knows the kind of job I do and understand me well. We would have mutual respect for each other. Whatever happens, I’ll always respect my partner and whatever issues we have, we settle it indoors.

Aside maturity, what else do you look out for in your ideal man?

God-fearing, disciplined, well-dressed and clean mental, spiritually and emotionally. I can’t stand dirty environments or dirty people.

Is that all, how about the size of his pockets?

Well, I would rather go for a man with potentials but if you have the money already, that’s an addition. I am a hardworking person and I believe that as a team, we would make it. I don’t want a lazy person.

What else does love mean to you?

Love is God. He sent His only begotten Son to die for us. That is the essence of true love.

Let’s keep the spiritual aspect of love aside, to you as human being?

We have to start from the spiritual aspect first. Love is more about sacrifice. And most times, people misuse the context of love.  They thought its all about feelings. Love takes a lot of maturity. So when next you say you are in love, think about it very well.

Aside acting, what other business are you involved in?

I am into food business. I love food. I’m from Calabar in Cross-River State. We are known for good food. So I started packaging dried Afang leaves for sale.  Then, bottled palm oil. I also have a pet project called Belinda’s Advocacy Against Rape. But I am yet to push it further because of work. I am in partnership with project alert. They are in-charge of violence against women. I hope to pick it again soon.

What’s your take on the actresses who are forming cliques?

I don’t know of such. I am good with everybody. I don’t work with restricted people. I am just me.

Who are your role models?

I have really being inspired by the likes of Olu Jacob, RMD, Genevieve, Mercy Johnson, Uche Jombo, Ini Edo, lots of them. They motivated me to act. Majid Michel, Emem Isong, Desmond Elliot, all those I grew up watching on TV. They all have a story to tell for people to learn from.

If you have a chance, what would you change about yourself?

I believe God created us all the way we are for a reason. But I’m given a chance to ask for me, maybe I’ll ask for more intelligence, to be closer to God, more fervent with God.

As for myself, my physical self, I love the way I am. Although, when I was much younger, I wanted bigger boobs, but as I grow older, I found that bigger boobs don’t really make you prettier. It is just about your carriage. I am going to leverage with what I have.

What’s your philosophy of life?

Be the best person you can be, because the you in you, makes you who you are.

Aside the characters you play on Television who is Belinda Effah?

Whatever people think they know about me, that’s fine. That is why I play different characters in the movie and still remain myself in reality. I’m a public figure, so whatever people think or feel like saying about me, that’s fine. My personal life is my personal life. I believe that I am a role model to whole lot of people. I’m a God-fearing person. I put God first in everything I do. That’s the real me. Other things you hear about me are false. I am well orientated, focused, determined and nothing would change that about me.

However, if people keep talking about me, that means I am relevant.