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How Sinful Or Not Is It For Couples To Watch Pornography?

Posted: Oct 15, 2016 at 5:23 pm   /   by   /   comments (0)

Chinyere Abiaziem

Sandra and her soul mate Richard enjoy watching pornographic films (otherwise known as ‘blue films’) together in their bedroom especially before retiring to bed. While Blossom, Sandra’s friend distastes the idea of pornography in any form and disagrees with her hubby constantly over it. Reason being that she (Blossom) believes it negates the sacredness associated with purity that her faith teaches.
The acceptability of ‘porn’ differs from couple to couple based on various factors. Some couples view it as dirty, some others take it as a veritable way of arousing themselves and keeping their sexual lives hot as they get to acquaint themselves with the various techniques seen or read in the phonographic works.
Independent Sunday asked some individuals and faith leaders for their take on the subject matter. Excerpts:

Pornography is an inappropriate way to learn about sex –
Pastor Bella
There are Christian couples who watch pornography to learn creative sexual styles. If you read and understand the Word of God, you will know this is an inappropriate way to learn about sex. Just looking at someone lustfully is classified as adultery (Matthew 5:28) so to comfortably watch other people have sex what will God call that? It is a sexual sin. It is a perversion and an abomination. This defiles your marriage and God has commanded us in Hebrews 13:4 to keep our marriage bed pure and undefiled.
God will teach you how to have sex properly if you and your spouse yield that aspect of your life to Him. There are professional books and teachings you can get that are not designed to arouse you but to educate you on how to have a vibrant and satisfying sex life. Remember, the Holy Spirit is a sieve and filter in the lives of His children. Take everything to Him in prayer and He will let you know how to glorify Him with your sex life. Everything we do must glorify God (Colossians 1:16), even sex must glorify Him. This is why sex outside marriage is wrong because He has clearly specified in His Word that it is a hell-bound sin (1 Corinthians 6:9).
Pre-marital counseling is important and marriage counseling is also important. Intimacy is a journey and to express ourselves as husbands and wives we need to really feel secure. Many times a wife or husband will feel more comfortable telling a counselor what the problem is. Then the counselor acts as the mediator and enables them to express themselves and their needs to each other.
Sexual communication is very important. If you are not satisfied in this area please seek counseling and work on your marriage. The importance of sex in marriage must never be dispelled. Sex is very, very, very, important. If the husband and wife are mutually satisfied in this area, it benefits the marriage more than they can possibly imagine. Lean on the wisdom of God always and you will make it. Selah!

Pornography is normal for couples –  Innocent
It is normal for couples to watch pornography if done with each other’s consent
It is normal depending on the view and reasons behind the act by the couples. Most people see porn movies as the only thing that turn them on before sex and some see it as fun within their love affair. It is normal between couples but when done without the knowledge of your partner, it becomes cheat.

It’s normal if… – Olayiga

It’s normal only if couples will not get wild and start cheating. Again, I do not totally agree because some of the porns are unGodly especially the gay and bisexuals, you know God wants a straight relationship.

There’s no sense watching porno – Morenike

It does not make sense when couples watch porn to get creative styles.
I do not believe in porn. I do not think I can be among the list of individuals that would justify it. Whether single or married nothing can justify the force behind a product of evil. Sex is good and justified for the married but not justifiable for anyone outside marriage. I can also boldly say I and my husband share this same opinion. It does not make sense when couples say they watch porn to get creative styles. Who thought then how to? Well, I am married and to the glory of God I and my husband never had sex before marriage. We both were naive and we learnt through time. It’s three years now and I am glad we are where we are and we can get better through the strength of God.

No go area for any Christian couple –  Simon

Yes it matters, especially as a true Christian. In Matthew 5:28 we are made to know that whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her, hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. Now pornography is all about watching sexual immoral acts with the intention to acquire sexual skills or get sexual attention of your spouse. For me any Christian couple should not engage in such immoral act.

It all depends… – Tony

Well, my view is that it depends on several factors – the couples religious leaning, the couples exposure, the couples personal views, the couples sexual drive and disposition etc.

Pornography definitely causes man to lust after flesh…Rev. Elisha Ogundiya, Chairman Osun State Chapter of Christian Association of Nigeria (CAN)
I am presenting my view from a Christian perspective and according to Biblical teachings. The first question we may want to ask is; what does the Bible say about pornography? By far, the most searched for terms on the internet are related to pornography. Pornography is rampant in the world today. Perhaps more than anything else, it has been discovered that Satan has succeeded in twisting and perverting sex. He has taken what is good and right (loving sex between legally married man and woman) and replaced it with lust, pornography, adultery, rape, and homosexuality. Pornography can be the first step on a very slippery slope of ever-increasing wickedness and immorality as stated in (Romans 6:19).
The addictive nature of pornography is well documented. Just as a drug user must consume greater and more powerful quantities of drugs to achieve the same “high,” pornography drags a person deeper and deeper into hard-core sexual addictions and unGodly desires. Though some recommend it exclusively for Christian couples who may be having problem in their sexual life, how do they control it that it would not lead to unnecessary sexual exposure and sin? Pornography definitely causes man to lust after flesh, and it is undeniably a lust of the eyes.
For those involved in pornography, God can and will give the victory and way out of it by taking the following steps:
(1) Confess your sin to God (1 John 1:9).
(2) Ask God to cleanse, renew, and transform your mind (Romans 12:2).
(3) Ask God to fill your mind with Philippians 4:8.
(4) Learn to possess your body in holiness (1 Thessalonians 4:3-4).
(5) Understand the proper meaning of sex and rely on your spouse alone to meet that need (1 Corinthians 7:1-5).
(6) Realise that if you walk in the Spirit, you will not fulfill the lusts of the flesh (Galatians 5:16).
(7) Take practical steps to reduce your exposure to graphic images. Install pornography blockers on your computer, limit television and video usage, and find another Christian who will pray for you and help keep you accountable.

Not necessary for couples with kids already – Prof. Abdulrazaq Kilani

I do not think it is necessary for couples to watch pornography if they already have children.  In marriage they can experiment with themselves whatever they think they can learn from such films. It could become worse if their children learn this habit from their parent. I can only suggest this for early couple where one of them is frigid and love making is difficult.

The adverse effects of porn is nothing compared to its seeming momentary ‘pleasure’ – Emmanuel Asuquo, Writer

Available statistics has shown the massive consumption of pornography, cutting across different age groups and genders. However, this does not score the practice of viewing pornography as good. It is not worth debating whether it matters if couples watched porn together but for the purpose of the question my answer is an emphatic “Yes”, it does matter if couples watch pornography, whether together or not. It would not be strange to have those who indulge in pornography argue that it gives sexual satisfaction and helps in exploring different sexual styles. The bitter truth is that the adverse effects of porn are nothing compared to the seeming momentary ‘pleasure’.

Pornography is immoral and a mere illusion – Abdulrazaq Oniye, Lecturer/family counselor

It matters, negatively. This is because in itself it’s immoral and practically a delusion of male or female sexual prowess or ability. The impression created is delusional bearing in mind that it takes about seven to ten minutes for average man to reach orgasm and 10 to 20 minutes for the average woman. Thus the idea of a man lasting 30minutes to an hour is mere illusion and could lead to self destructive behaviour on the part of either the man or woman. I will encourage them to desist from it; they should learn to talk frankly but fairly about their desire and what they want. Where case or cases of sexual dysfunction is established they should find realistic solution to it by consulting a marriage counselor and or gynecologist for due consultation.

It opens door for destruction – Iphy Okonkwo, business woman

Yes, it is sinful and does matters. It is perversion. What happens in porn is not the re