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Getting Married, It’s Tough To Know I Won’t  be a Bachelor Again – Kalu Ikeagwu

Posted: Jun 20, 2016 at 1:25 pm   /   by   /   comments (1)

Ifeoma Ononye – Lagos
Kalu Ikeagwu has many times been named Nollywood’s hottest bachelor and many had urged him to tie the knots. Well, the ‘Tinsel’ and ‘Osuofia in London’ actor, has decided to heed the advice and will be walking down the aisle next week. He told Ifeoma Ononye in this exclusive interview how he found the love of his life; how he proposed in a very unromantic way and why he is scared of children.

You have refused to disclose your wedding venue to the press, why is that?
You know I am a very private person and I don’t want a lot of crowd.

Many would love to know why it’s a kind of a secret or why there is not so much noise about it?
It’s not a secret, some blogs have written about it. I don’t like noise and for me the most important thing is the marriage itself. The wedding is just to say to everybody that before God and man that I am married to this person. The main thing is the marriage and it matters a lot where I am from.

Are you saying this because a lot of celebrity marriages keep breaking up these days?
Whether they keep breaking up is none of my business. The truth is that the celebrities represent the micro part of the larger society. And in the larger society, divorce rate are really on the increase. I can attest to that because some of my friends are in that situation as well. But that is not my business; my business is my own marriage. People have asked me many times in the past why I was not married and the reason is that marriage is very important to me. If I wanted a fantastic wedding that everyone would come to, I would have done that years ago but because marriage is very important to me, I was taking my time. For the wedding, what I would have loved was I and her going off to somewhere private but because it’s very important for the family to get to know one another and also for people to know my woman out there and if anyone dares touch her, I break the persons’ bones. Basically that’s what it is.

So how do you feel? Do you feel excited? Men tend not to get excited about weddings.
I am excited about my marriage. I’m ‘just there’ about my wedding.

Not because of the money. I told God to take care of how the money for the expenses comes, especially at this time when everything is on the increase. My friends call and ask how we are going to cope with a basket of tomato at that high price. I know God will take care of how those will come. The good thing about the wedding preparation is that I am seeing the beauty of the person I am getting married to through this. I mean she is not getting stressed and she is working very hard. She is a very reliable person. She is doing most of the work for our wedding

Do you see yourself growing very old, like up to using a walking stick with her?
Growing old, yes, but I don’t know about walking stick. I don’t think I want to see myself going about with a walking stick.

You don’t wish to use a walking stick when you are like 95 years old?
I told God I want to maintain my vigour. What I mean by vigor is being about to satisfy my wife even when I am 90. I don’t want to be walking frail kind of old.

Is that even possible?
Oh, it’s possible, watch me. I will be the first person. Not using a walking stick means I will be erect and I will be able to trot if I’m not able to jog.

Some of your fans were expecting that you would end up with an actress?
Are you saying my wife is not beautiful? She is more beautiful than I am.

I didn’t mean that, I just meant that some people were expecting that you would have married an actress.
Someone asked me that question before. He asked who would I marry? Would I marry an actress? And I said if that is the person for me, I would marry an actress. The person I am getting married to is from the entertainment industry as well. She is a make-up artiste amongst other things that she does. I got to a point in my life where I was trying to get the perfect person for me. I found out that maybe I was the problem and not the women. Because all the women I dated before were very wonderful women. They had good character. I got to a point where I told God to make a choice for me because I recognised that I am flawed as a human being. I had two conditions that I cannot compromise on. First, the person has to love God more than I do and the second is that I want a companion throughout my years, whether she is beautiful or ugly, local or sophisticated; thin or fat, I did not care. All I wanted was a companion that I will be happy with and God answered my prayers.

No one knew you were this religious…
Religious, you could call it that. I have known God from a young age but only until recently when I had lots of frustrations from doing what I wanted to do. Doing what I felt was best for me in my life. I went through a terrible experience that made me understand that there is a consequence to every path you take and there was major consequences to every part you take here on earth. So, in exclusion of every pastor, I had to go and look for God myself and I found him. Since then I understand that there is nothing that exists here on earth that is not orchestrated from up there. Hence my ‘religiousness’

How does it feel giving up your bachelor life?
That is one of the reasons why I am not married for quite a while. I have been on my own since I was nine years old. I was in boarding school so I learned to be on my own from that time upwards. I am sort of introverted. My whole world exists in my head. So my bachelorhood was the toughest thing for me to give up.

So you were scared of inviting someone into your life?
Something like that, like inviting someone to take over my life and space.

Are you that romantic?
I wouldn’t call it being romantic. I don’t see myself as a romantic person.

So, how did you propose?
I told you I am not a romantic person. I proposed indirectly and under pressure.

We would love to know the details
I proposed indirectly like I said earlier and I put her on the spot. Immediately it occurred to me that I cannot let her go, that she is a keeper and someone I cannot afford to lose; at my uncles’ funeral, when we were about to start the funeral. I was speaking with one of my uncles when she came to me to collect my car keys and I held her by the waist and told my uncle that she is the one I want to marry. He looked at me and said, “are you sure?” I said I was very sure. He turned to her and asked her if I was her choice and she shyly said yes.

Some may see that is a boring way to propose. Then did you just wake up the next day and just called her up to take her ring?
I can only clear my throat to this question.

We know you are not a shy person because you are always in front of a camera, so we would love to know why you proposed like that?
Who said so? I am very shy when it comes to these kind of things. That was very manipulative of me because I chose to kill two birds with a stone. I wanted to tell my uncle how serious I was and I also wanted her to say how serious she is about me in front of my uncle. To me that was more important than any romantic proposal. I am not romantic. I am boring if that’s how you and many others see me. No apologies whatsoever. I may learn in the marriage. She is not that romantic herself.

What movie set are you on at the moment?
I just finished shooting a movie ‘Bed Watcher’ with Chioma Akpota directed by flow smith, Ike Nnebue.

What are you wearing on your wedding day?
I am wearing a three piece suit and I have been exercising like mad for it to be able to fit. I would rather celebrate our indigenous designers. But Vans Kere is making my traditional outfit.

What do you like wearing on an average day?
I love wearing t-shirts, polo shirts and jeans. Then sneakers when I am not shooting.

Since you are getting married, are there some roles you will give up acting?
I have a step daughter and I keep asking my wife-to-be which of my movies has she seen? If it’s the one I was a bad guy or the ones where I am a good guy. So I thought about this question you just asked and I realised that I am like a role model to my family. My family would have to inform the roles I take on from now. I might not be going naked in any movies anytime soon. I don’t think I will give up being a bad guy in movies so far as it teaches something. But if it will be vulgar, I will hands off.

You said you have a step daughter?
Yes, Ijeoma has a daughter so I do have a step daughter.

You mentioned earlier while off camera that you were scared of children, you were joking right?
I am nervous around children because I was never out in position where I have to look after them. Only when I took care of my younger ones who were just 5 or 6 six years old at the time. But children are drawn to me and I have this feeling that I may spoil them rotten because I love them too much.

Would you love to have a baby immediately after marriage?
No, I will love to enjoy my wife before the babies start coming.

How many babies do you want?
What? A full house? I only want to change pampers only once or two times. I love my quiet but I can mature and manage with two. Two children are enough.

Were you a troublesome child when you were a kid?
Oh, you wouldn’t like how I was when I was growing up. I marked every wall in my parent’s house. I poured water at the back of television sets. I look into the back of the television set to see what’s going on and a shout ‘oh! That’s fire, let’s put the fire out and I pour water’. I did things that I am afraid of seeing my own children do.

You are bidding farewell to single life and to ladies who have crushed on you, any special message for them?
What ladies? I only know one and that’s my wife to be. To other female out there who may think they missed out because they were not with me, I will tell them ‘I am not that much of a catch’. Trust God to choose your partner for you. You will find better men than me. I learned that from my personal experience.

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