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How To Make Him Fall In Love

Posted: Jun 18, 2016 at 1:00 am   /   by   /   comments (0)


Yemi Adebisi

(With Agency Reports)

Forget all the bad advice you’ve ever been told, and keep reading to find out the seven things that actually work to make a man fall in love with you.

Certain aspects of falling in love cannot be explained. Sometimes there’s just a spark and that indescribable chemistry that has you feeling love drunk.

However, even where there’s chemistry, a relationship can still go burning down in flames. Some things women do will sabotage a relationship and other things will make it more likely for a man to fall in love.

Here is a list of seven things you can do to make him fall in love with you:


Be Emotionally Independent

Being emotionally independent means that you take responsibility for your own happiness. That means that you don’t depend on a guy to make you happy.

Emotional independence is the opposite of neediness, and nothing will kill a relationship faster than neediness.

Men don’t fall in love with needy women. They fall in love with women who are living happy, fulfilled lives, all on their own.


Stand Up For Yourself

Don’t let a guy walk all over you. You do not have to put up with any bad behavior. If he treats you in any way that’s not okay with you, let him know.

If a guy stood you up and gave you some lame excuse, what would you do? Would you go out of your way to let him know it’s okay and clear your schedule to meet up another time? Do you see what’s wrong with that?

If a guy knows he can get away with anything he wants and you’ll still be waiting around for him, he’s not going to value you. He’ll take advantage of you, but he’s not going to fall in love with you.


Be The Prize

Men value things they have to earn. Be confident and see yourself as the prize that your man has to work hard for to win.

Being the prize is all about inner confidence and knowing that you are worthy of being loved, adored, and worshipped.

If you feel unworthy and are constantly trying to impress a guy and win him over, he’s going to sense that you don’t value yourself. If you don’t value yourself, why would he?

Men are hard-wired to chase after women, not the other way around. When you treat him like the prize and work hard to win him over, you’ve got it all backwards. If he feels like you roped him in, he’s going to feel trapped because it wasn’t his choice.

A man falls in love and commits to a woman when it’s his choice to chase after her and fight for her. He’s got to feel like he won the prize.


Be Vulnerable

A big part of falling love is your willingness to be vulnerable. For a guy to fall in love, he’s got to see the real you. It can be scary, but you have to be vulnerable enough to let him see who you really are.

Part of being vulnerable is being okay in your life with or without the relationship. You have to be secure enough and love yourself enough to still be happy even if the relationship ends.

If you are always acting out of fear of losing your guy, you are going to come off as desperate. Be comfortable with who you are and what you want.

If you have needs that aren’t being met, don’t be afraid to let your man know. If he doesn’t respect you, then he’s not the right guy for you anyway.


Acknowledge And Appreciate Him

A man falls in love with a woman based on how he feels around her. At the end of the day, all a man really wants is to make you happy. He wants to feel like a super hero around you.

A man needs to feel that you love and appreciate him for who he is, with no agenda. If you see the things in him that he feels other people ignore, he’s going to feel connected to you.

When you recognise his best qualities and show your sincere appreciation, he won’t be able to help falling in love with you.

Care About Him

Take the time to ask your guy how his day was and actually listen to him. Let him talk and show him that you actually care about what he has to say.

A lot of women get caught up in the fantasy of having a boyfriend. They might not care that much about the guy they’re with, so long as they are with somebody and don’t have to be alone.

A man doesn’t want to feel like he’s just filling the boyfriend slot and could easily be replaced by any other guy with a pulse. He wants to feel that the woman he’s dating actually cares about him and wants to be with him.

If you’re just faking your way through the relationship to have a boyfriend, your guy isn’t going to feel connected to you.


Give Him Space

Men don’t fall in love the same way women do. They actually need space to feel more connected to you.

It seems counter intuitive to women, so they often make the mistake of smothering a guy when he really needs time on his own. But don’t take it personally. It’s just the way guys are wired.

For a man to fall in love, he needs to feel safe. He needs to know that he’s not going to lose his identity or his freedom.

If you freak out when he just needs to have some guy time and get in touch with his masculine side again, you’re going to make him feel like he’s losing his freedom.

A man will fall in love with a woman who understands that he just needs time to recharge and doesn’t get clingy. When he’s off spending time without you, that’s when he will understand and appreciate what he has with you.